In this season of giving, I’m unable to give my time or money to charities and community groups like I normally do. Instead, my “group” is my mom; my efforts all for her comfort.
When facing someone who’s dying, the gifts I receive far outweigh any measure of comfort I offer. I’d like to share with you some things I realized I took for granted, when my mom began to struggle with a deteriorating body.
- Getting up out of bed on your own
- Getting up out of a chair on your own
- Having enough meat on your tush to sit comfortably for a long time
- Being able to cross your legs while sitting
- Feeding yourself
- Getting on & off a toilet
- Brushing your teeth
- Reading a book
- Choosing what you want to eat, or cooking for yourself
- Driving a car
- Shopping in a store not in a wheelchair
Every so often, I’ll stop, completely, in the course of my day, and realize that I’m totally present. Sometimes it’s not totally present, but at least way more present than usual. Today it was when I plucked my eyebrows. Ok, maybe that’s an easy one what with pinpricks on my forehead. But, yesterday, it was when The Doobie Brothers Listen to the Music came on the radio. I started to sing along, and chills went up my spine for the pure joy & pleasure of driving along in that moment. These are the times I remember how lucky I am to be alive, to be driving, to be able to feed myself, etc. These are the times I usually forget where I’m driving, accidentally cut someone off, and then remember I left the shopping list on the kitchen counter. Ah, well. You can’t win ’em all…
What everyday things do you often take for granted?